At the core, it’s about fostering a space that feels safe. But that can mean so many things to so many people. Even the word “safe” may feel foreign for someone who’s never felt safe. This can feel so tricky at times.
If we truly want to cultivate a feeling of safety, then we need to develop presence that is warm, open and curious. This allows us to better perceive how someone is reacting to us. From there we can adjust ourselves or the environment to increase safety.
Confidence also helps when we have moments of being misattuned with others. It helps us to own our part in the misattunement. From there, we can spend our energy finding a way to repair and move forward, rather than getting stuck.
None of us will get it right all the time. But if we can find a way to show up with warmth, openness, curiosity, humility and confidence this will allow us to proceed in a more attuned manner. Greater attunement helps us manifest a trauma informed way of being.