We’ve all had moments of feeling let down when we “got our hopes up” about something.
And, I get it. It hurts. We often feel like there’s something wrong with us for having hope in the first place.
But I don’t feel like hope is always the issue. Hope is important. We need hope in our lives. Hope keeps us moving. Keeps us working toward a better future.
To me, underneath “I got my hopes up” is actually attachment to the outcome. There’s a very big difference between having hope and getting attached to a particular outcome.
Hope looks like, “I have hope that things will get better and I am going to keep moving toward that someway, somehow.”
Attachment to the outcome looks like, “It will only get better if X happens now.”
See the difference?
So, for whatever is going on in your life right now – what would it look like to have hope but lose the attachment?
And if it feels too hard to loose the attachment? Perhaps it might be a good moment to reflect upon what you might be needing right now.